What makes a great decision

Sep 25, 2019

Fourteen years ago today, on a sunny and warm autumn morning, my wife and I woke up to the reality of a married couple.

It was the first day of our new life as a family. We were so young and naive that we had no idea what this would mean for us or how we’re gonna do anything in life, but we’ve both said yes to this idea of marriage. We’ve made the decision.

I remember we had a couple of “honeymoon" days in the Carpathian mountains where we drove my dad’s old car over the highest road pass in Romania, the Transfagarasan. That was a courageous decision in itself given the shape of the road, the age of the car itself, the fact that we were low on fuel and my limited driving experience. Take a look at the amazing scenery.



We wanted to reach higher and further than we’ve been before. And it became our mantra to always strive to reach higher and further.

Yesterday we celebrated fourteen years of marriage.

Looking back at the journey we’re amazed by how much we’ve been through and where we are today. We would have never dreamed of living in Sweden. Sweden was one of the dream places we use to see on the Saturday 7 pm documentary in our teenage years and dreamed to visit one day.

Now, looking back, I’m amazed but not surprised by the successes we had cause I know how much we went through to get where we are today.

If there is one major take away from our fourteen years journey is that what makes a great decision is not the decision itself but what we do after we’ve made the decision.

I’ve made the decision to marry Florina in a split of a second but I had to manage this decision for the last fourteen years.

The decision itself is neither good or bad, it just is.

We had all the reasons in the world to prove to ourselves that this was a bad decision.

There were definitely a few occasions where Florina would have had legitimate reasons to say I’m not worth spending the rest of her life with me and marrying me was a bad decision. I had plenty of reasons why Florina’s family had pulled us backward by the constant stream of stress she was experiencing from her dysfunctional family to say, “That’s enough!” But I didn’t.

All those little moments, all those micro commitments, all those daily decisions led us where we are today. It was not the decision we’ve made back in 2004 and the fact that we said yes on September 24, 2005.

What makes any decision a great decision is how we manage that decision.  

This works in every single area of your life, being it personal or professional.

So my question to you is where do you work on proving yourself wrong?

What decisions have you made and how are you managing those decisions?

Are you doing everything in your power to make it a great decision or are you looking for all the reasons why it was a bad decision?

Food for thought.

And it should be.

Warmly,
Florin